This method should only be used in an emergency. Use it to shake teasing about liking someone or to get back at people for teasing you for being single. It can also be fun to make a new "friend" to chat to your friends.
Steps
1Choose a name for your fake boyfriend/girlfriend. It should be a believable or popular name like Ryan, Tyler, Lucas, or Jake for boys, or Jessica, Ashley, Sarah, Taylor, Cassy, Selena, Beth, or Holly for girls.
2Set up your character's personality. Make the personality just the way that you want to see in a boy/girl. Like if you like soccer, make him/her like soccer too. But make sure there are still some differences, remember nobody is perfect.
3Say that your fake bf/gf used to live right next door to you, and that you met him/her when they moved in and you are keeping a long distance relationship. This will ensure that your friends won't have to meet him/her.
4Create a fake AIM (or other IM) account. Make the password simple and memorable. Make the user name, well, his/her name! Only if you got a really cool idea then you can make a nickname.
5Send emails to yourself as the person and respond as if there is nothing weird about it
6Try not to make plans too often to see him or her if it's apparently a long distance relationship; your friends might ask to tag along and/or it will seem suspicious.
7Pretend to answer your phone on vibrate. It will be him/her of course, tell them you'll call him/her back tonight (stick in a casual "love you too")
8Have your phone out constantly, typing texts constantly. Then just send it but dont save it
Friday, March 5, 2010
How to propose a guy
A girl can propose a guy. Here is a guide on how to propose a guy which will make the task easy for a girl to confess her love to a guy
Is proposing only a man's job? Many women still wonder if it is right or wrong to propose a guy. It is 21st century and we believe in men woman equality. Tradition believes that it is a man who first asks out a woman for a date but now the scenario has changed. People raise their eyebrows in astonishment when they hear stories of a girl proposing a guy. But it is perfectly all right for a girl to propose a guy. Just consider some important things before you pour out your heart to the man you love.
Choose the right time How about proposing a guy on Valentine's Day? Choosing an appropriate day to tell your feelings to a guy, it will make proposing easier. Apart from 14th February you may pick up some other important days such as his birthday, a New Year's Eve or any other jolly occasion to let him know you love him. If you are going to propose your boyfriend for marriage the day you first kissed or the day you first met will be the ideal date to pop the question.
Choose the right place Guys can be really sentimental at times. Avoid picking up a crowded place to propose him. Proposing at crowded place may put both of you in an awkward situation. Places like shopping malls, coffee shops and theaters are not the right places to propose a guy. Choose a place that would be quiet. Make sure the spot you have chosen to make your proposal should provide some privacy. Places like gardens or beaches can be perfect to propose a guy.
Make it romantic and memorable It may sound clichéd but bending down on your knees and proposing to your love with a ring is still considered very romantic. Doing so will definitely melt his heart and he might express his love for you right there. You may toss a question at the place where you met for the first time. The fond memories will flood both of your hearts embracing you with the truest feelings of love. Your proposal should be passionate and romantic. A yes or a no is may be dependant on the way you propose.
Ask the question Be calm before asking the question. Tell him that you want his full attention as you want to tell him something important. Make him prepared for the moment and then pop the question. Look into his eyes and make way for your feelings. Tell him that you love him. Tell him why you love him. Ask him what he thinks about being in a relationship with you. He might need some time to digest what you said. Do not force him to accept your proposal. He may need some time.
Say it with a love letter Love letters can never be passé. In the age of e-mails a love letter is a rarity.One can put forward his or her feelings elegantly through written words. If you are feeling awkward to tell him your feelings you can always use a love letter. You need not use flowery language while composing a love letter. Just write whatever you want to convey him. Lay your emotions on the paper. He will get time to think on your proposal. It will make it easier for you too.
Be prepared for rejection Make yourself ready for rejection too. It is not necessary that a person whom you love will love you back. Respect his decision come what may. If he is destined to be with you, he will be with you anyways. Otherwise accept the rejection and move on. You may get someone much better.
Ideas to propose a guy When you have feelings for someone, you should convey them to the person you love. Here are some unique ideas to propose the man you love.
Go on the beach together and write the words 'will you marry me? Or 'will you be mine?' on the sands.
Bake him a cake and engrave your feelings with cream
Send him flowers with a love note.Who said boys do not like flowers.
Go traditional. Bend on one knee, present him the ring and say those three magical words.
Order some juice and put the ring at the bottom of the glass. He will be amazed to find the ring. An anonymous author has said that love is like a war, easy to begin but hard to end. If his answer is a no then it is obvious that you will feel terrible for few days. Time is the best healer. If he accepts your proposal, it will be a dream comes true. Nurture your relationship with love and care. So churn your mind and come up with a creative idea to propose him. Let him remember the day through out his life. So stop waiting for Cupid and shoot your own arrows of love.
Is proposing only a man's job? Many women still wonder if it is right or wrong to propose a guy. It is 21st century and we believe in men woman equality. Tradition believes that it is a man who first asks out a woman for a date but now the scenario has changed. People raise their eyebrows in astonishment when they hear stories of a girl proposing a guy. But it is perfectly all right for a girl to propose a guy. Just consider some important things before you pour out your heart to the man you love.
Choose the right time How about proposing a guy on Valentine's Day? Choosing an appropriate day to tell your feelings to a guy, it will make proposing easier. Apart from 14th February you may pick up some other important days such as his birthday, a New Year's Eve or any other jolly occasion to let him know you love him. If you are going to propose your boyfriend for marriage the day you first kissed or the day you first met will be the ideal date to pop the question.
Choose the right place Guys can be really sentimental at times. Avoid picking up a crowded place to propose him. Proposing at crowded place may put both of you in an awkward situation. Places like shopping malls, coffee shops and theaters are not the right places to propose a guy. Choose a place that would be quiet. Make sure the spot you have chosen to make your proposal should provide some privacy. Places like gardens or beaches can be perfect to propose a guy.
Make it romantic and memorable It may sound clichéd but bending down on your knees and proposing to your love with a ring is still considered very romantic. Doing so will definitely melt his heart and he might express his love for you right there. You may toss a question at the place where you met for the first time. The fond memories will flood both of your hearts embracing you with the truest feelings of love. Your proposal should be passionate and romantic. A yes or a no is may be dependant on the way you propose.
Ask the question Be calm before asking the question. Tell him that you want his full attention as you want to tell him something important. Make him prepared for the moment and then pop the question. Look into his eyes and make way for your feelings. Tell him that you love him. Tell him why you love him. Ask him what he thinks about being in a relationship with you. He might need some time to digest what you said. Do not force him to accept your proposal. He may need some time.
Say it with a love letter Love letters can never be passé. In the age of e-mails a love letter is a rarity.One can put forward his or her feelings elegantly through written words. If you are feeling awkward to tell him your feelings you can always use a love letter. You need not use flowery language while composing a love letter. Just write whatever you want to convey him. Lay your emotions on the paper. He will get time to think on your proposal. It will make it easier for you too.
Be prepared for rejection Make yourself ready for rejection too. It is not necessary that a person whom you love will love you back. Respect his decision come what may. If he is destined to be with you, he will be with you anyways. Otherwise accept the rejection and move on. You may get someone much better.
Ideas to propose a guy When you have feelings for someone, you should convey them to the person you love. Here are some unique ideas to propose the man you love.
Go on the beach together and write the words 'will you marry me? Or 'will you be mine?' on the sands.
Bake him a cake and engrave your feelings with cream
Send him flowers with a love note.Who said boys do not like flowers.
Go traditional. Bend on one knee, present him the ring and say those three magical words.
Order some juice and put the ring at the bottom of the glass. He will be amazed to find the ring. An anonymous author has said that love is like a war, easy to begin but hard to end. If his answer is a no then it is obvious that you will feel terrible for few days. Time is the best healer. If he accepts your proposal, it will be a dream comes true. Nurture your relationship with love and care. So churn your mind and come up with a creative idea to propose him. Let him remember the day through out his life. So stop waiting for Cupid and shoot your own arrows of love.
How to propose your girlfriend
Guys, are you wondering how you can propose to your beautiful girlfriend in a way that she will remember forever, and in a way that her friends will forever be in envy? Ladies, do you want to hint to your boyfriend on how you would like to be proposed to someday, but the right idea hasn't come to you?... read ahead..
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
Courage
Ring
A little (good) deception
Step 1
Compliments of Talkwedding
The first thing to realize, is that most women want to be proposed to in a way that their friends and family haven't been. They want a story to tell. They want (I think) to be so unprepared that they cry... happy cry. So the guy has a lot of pressure on himself knowing all of this. But don't fret or worry, there are ways out there that most people don't think of, that will knock her right of her feet, and should definitely not hurt you get that "yes" you hope for.
Step 2
The first way is the way I proposed to my new wife. I tell her that I'd like to take Christmas photos to send to our family. Without her knowing, I have already contacted a photography studio and set the whole session up with the photographer. We start off with Christmas photos, and the photographer decides to change to a solid background (this is normal so the lady should have no idea). The photographer had us take a few poses with the new background, and had me get on my knee at one point. Now my girlfriend got her hopes up, and the photographer knows this, and has her sit on my knee for a picture to throw her back off. Then she has my girlfriend stand up and the photographer winks at me letting me know that she has a new roll ready and I can go for it. This is where I grab my girlfriend's hand and start giving my quick speech, followed by pulling the ring out of my back pocket. Now mind you, this whole time, the photographer is catching every moment on film including my girlfriend's reactions! Now when someone asks her how I proposed to her, she can not only tell them, but show them step by step!
Step 3
My backup plan was a great one in my head, but took more than I knew how to accomplish. I was going to take her favorite movie (A Walk to Remember) and in the middle of the movie, have the tape edited to go to a screen with me asking her to marry me. This would have been a great idea for anyone terrified of asking in person, and would have also given her something to hold onto forever and show people how I asked her. This would have worked great, but I would have technically had to get the film's permission to edit their film... but I'm sure it would have worked.
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
Courage
Ring
A little (good) deception
Step 1
Compliments of Talkwedding
The first thing to realize, is that most women want to be proposed to in a way that their friends and family haven't been. They want a story to tell. They want (I think) to be so unprepared that they cry... happy cry. So the guy has a lot of pressure on himself knowing all of this. But don't fret or worry, there are ways out there that most people don't think of, that will knock her right of her feet, and should definitely not hurt you get that "yes" you hope for.
Step 2
The first way is the way I proposed to my new wife. I tell her that I'd like to take Christmas photos to send to our family. Without her knowing, I have already contacted a photography studio and set the whole session up with the photographer. We start off with Christmas photos, and the photographer decides to change to a solid background (this is normal so the lady should have no idea). The photographer had us take a few poses with the new background, and had me get on my knee at one point. Now my girlfriend got her hopes up, and the photographer knows this, and has her sit on my knee for a picture to throw her back off. Then she has my girlfriend stand up and the photographer winks at me letting me know that she has a new roll ready and I can go for it. This is where I grab my girlfriend's hand and start giving my quick speech, followed by pulling the ring out of my back pocket. Now mind you, this whole time, the photographer is catching every moment on film including my girlfriend's reactions! Now when someone asks her how I proposed to her, she can not only tell them, but show them step by step!
Step 3
My backup plan was a great one in my head, but took more than I knew how to accomplish. I was going to take her favorite movie (A Walk to Remember) and in the middle of the movie, have the tape edited to go to a screen with me asking her to marry me. This would have been a great idea for anyone terrified of asking in person, and would have also given her something to hold onto forever and show people how I asked her. This would have worked great, but I would have technically had to get the film's permission to edit their film... but I'm sure it would have worked.
How to lie...
"So don't ask me no questions and I won't tell you no lies" --Lynyrd Skynyrd
The key to convincing someone you are telling the truth is to keep a balance of fact and fiction.
The key to convincing someone you are telling the truth is to keep a balance of fact and fiction.
Steps
1Decide if what you are lying about is worth the effort and the potential consequences. It is a personal decision. You need to be realistic with yourself. It is easy to become a compulsive liar and ruin your life. Under what circumstances are you willing to risk damaging relationships, reputation, and future opportunities and do the benefits of telling the lie outweigh the risks?
2If you know you're going to have to lie, think of some specific true thing (place, person, event, story) that your lie will fit into and use those details if you are questioned. This gives you a bank of specific details to draw on so you don't have to keep making things up as you go along. The more things you have to lie about to support your original lie, the more likely you are to be tripped up. Lying is a bit like chess--you must always think ahead. Anticipate what the person you're lying to is going to ask, and be prepared with a response. Make sure you've thought about who you're lying to. What do they already know? What is acceptable or otherwise to them?
3Force yourself to believe your lie is truth. This will make you naturally act as if you were telling the truth. The trick is convincing your sub-conscious mind that you're telling the truth. An example of this may be, "Did I wreck the car? Well, I drove it into a wall. So, the wall wrecked the car. I just moved it!" In the immortal words of George Costanza, "It's not a lie if you believe it's true." This works well when your situation is quite ersatz. Alternatively, try imagining that you didn't. You're somebody else, who DIDN'T wreck the car. Pretend to be that person. Convince yourself that you're the person that didn't wreck the car.
4NEVER use big words or speak in a way you are not used to. If an average Joe sounds like he's reciting a thesaurus when you ask him how your car got that huge scratch, you'll know something is up.
5Slide the lie into a casual conversation. It's better to lie to the person in advance than have him question you later on the same topic. That way, the victim's mind has hours, possibly days to fill in the blanks, and if he/she does come back to question the story, you'll have a much easier time as your victim starts in on you. If the victim discovers your misdeed before you explain yourself, they'll have time to deduce what has happened with a certain degree of certainty before they ever even question you.
Example: Joe, Bob's roommate, walks in the front door, Bob, looking up from the television screen is told by Joe that the dog ate his sandwich when Joe actually did. Bob walks into the kitchen, discovers the sandwich is gone and shrugs. However, if Joe never said anything, Bob would come out of the kitchen angry and assumed Joe ate his tender, delicious, mid-morning snack, which in turn makes him angry and less receptive to anything Joe has to say in his defense.
6Look the person you are lying to in the eye. Don't look around, but don't stare either. In a normal conversation people do avert their glance from the other person's eyes naturally. People in the act of telling lies tend to do things in the extremes. Either they try to avoid eye contact as much as possible or they never break eye contact. In a normal conversation your eyes will move and you will look away to think, but otherwise you will maintain eye contact. Don't touch your head with your hand, or hold your palms up. Keep your palms at your side, and leave them there. There are many subliminal messages people send when lying. Learn what they are and how to avoid them. Definitely don't laugh or chuckle. Another helpful tip is to not stutter or get flustered. Some people blush or begin to stutter, because in some cases the subconscious panics. Keep calm and collected. Even go through what you are going to say in your head first. Therefore, you won't have to improvise. Most professional lie detectors (e.g. law enforcement professionals) know what they are, and you should, too. The cops will make small talk with you to establish what your "normal" behaviors are. When they get down to the serious subject matter, they look for deviances in behavior. Polygraph machines work the same way.
7Practice lying in front of a mirror or video camera. Observe your facial expressions. Try making your eyes go big and letting your mouth hang open a little for an innocent/shocked look. Also, practice looking like you're holding back tears. When you smile, show your teeth a little and crinkle up your eyes and cheeks. This is a 'sincere' smile, an ear-to-ear one.
8Make a truthful admission. If you sense that someone else suspects you of lying, admit or make them suspect you of something small or untrue. They will take the bait and think that that is all you were lying about.
9Play dumb. Coming off as too stupid to lie is a great defense. Lie as badly as you can about something small, but never actually admit to doing it. You will be free to lie about much bigger things and never be suspected.
10Follow through. Never forget about your lie, and treat it like it actually happened. Mention it in conversations the way you would if it was true. Silence about a certain subject can arouse suspicion, especially in retrospect.
11First, you will find that lying is much easier if you have a neutral reputation towards whoever you're lying to. This means you cannot have done anything bad to them that they can recently recall. This will prevent immediate suspicion about whatever you're saying and they will listen to your story and believe in you a bit more.
12Think about what questions the victim of your lie will ask when you next see them. For example: You tell your parents you're going to the movies with a friend. But you're really going to a concert with your girlfriend. Logically they're going to ask about what was in the movie you watched. Before you go, Google a summary what was in the movie; along with the climax and you can say it was your favorite part. Make sure to not sound like it was rehearsed.
13Make a lie that cannot be linked with anything anybody can relate to or look up. An example would be that you wanted to get out of school and you're "sick." Obviously you're going to have to go to the nurses office and explain what's wrong. Your school nurse usually will only be able to check your head with a thermometer. So saying your stomach hurts from eating beans at lunch can't be checked or related to because the nurse didn't eat lunch with you and she can't open your stomach and look inside. The rest of the lie is in the bag.
14If possible, combine your lie with the truth. Say your mom heard you talking on the phone about how drunk you got last night. She confronts you about it. Of course, you cannot completely turn around and say you didn't touch alcohol. Instead, include some of the truth while downplaying it. If you said, "What? I didn't drink!", say, "Yeah, Mom, they had a bottle of scotch after work... I took like one drink and I was out. It was gross."
15Add in extra details. For example, "I was outside Burger King having a Whopper with John and Mary." is more believable than simply "I was outside Burger King." However, you must make sure to tell "John and Mary" what you've said, in case your lie subject contacts them.
16Insult the other side. If people ask you about a lie, they expect you to be defensive, so naturally you should go on the offensive. Let's say you borrowed your dad's car and screwed it up somehow. He comes home, sees it, and says, "What happened to my car?" Instead of saying, "I don't know, I didn't do anything," say, "I dunno. It was screwing up the whole way over there, I had to pull over like twice and check out the engine."
17Do not try to distract the other person. It is very obvious when someone is trying to change the subject. If you keep talking about baseball while they're trying to figure out where their money went, it will be obvious you are nervous and don't want to talk about it. Instead, talk about their money for as long as you normally would - this is another reason why it is important to learn how you act when you are telling the truth.
18Body Language: when people suspect some one of lying it is normally due to clues that the person is giving off with body language. Many of the things police officers look for when they suspect someone of lying are the same things we do when we are under stress. Thus giving off confident body language can help convince the person we are lying to that we are telling the truth. The general rule is spread your body out. Don't cross your arms and don't cross your legs. Instead spread them out. Don't tilt your head down but instead keep it level. Don't fidget, don't play with you fingers, hair, pen or anything, just keep you body still and relaxed. Relaxation is important; if you are stiff you may give it away. Keep a calm level tone of voice, if your voice raises you will give it away. Also do not place anything between you and the person you are lying to. If you are holding something, and have to put it down place it to the side somewhere. By doing these things you will be giving the impression of confidence, which is the opposite emotion people normally have when lying. This makes the lie much more believable.
19Fake memory loss is an excellent way to lie. For example, if your mom asked you what you did at lunch and you had been making out with the girlfriend you weren’t supposed to have, instead of just saying "Uh...nothing special" say something more like "Uh..I can't remember...stuff...talked to some friends" sounds like what a parent expects to get from a teenager. Plus you can't really get caught in memory loss lying. Try looking a little confused as you feign memory loss it'll make it more believable.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
How to break up with someone
We all know breaking up is hard to do. But unless you're Ross and Rachel, or some teen romance turned happily-ever-after, breaking up is an unavoidable part of life. And while it's up to you to decide what your individual breakup style is, if you want to avoid future bad relationship karma, you'll adopt a few breakup basics.
Steps
1Pick an appropriate place. The less public, the better. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary; however, beware of an overly remote situation in case your ex loses control and resorts to violence.
2Choose the right time. Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want your ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?
3Do it in person. If the relationship is relatively new, maybe you can get away breaking up over the phone. But come on, if you've been out on more than a handful of dates, isn't that kind of harsh?
4Be honest but sensitive. No one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding him/her attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.
5Keep your emotions in check. Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate.
6Don't react. Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, or cry. But it doesn't mean you should react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the upper hand by being the dumper. Let the dumpee behave ridiculously if they choose to. And if their tantrum escalates, get the heck out of there! Don't wait around for the aftermath!
Steps
1Pick an appropriate place. The less public, the better. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary; however, beware of an overly remote situation in case your ex loses control and resorts to violence.
2Choose the right time. Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want your ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?
3Do it in person. If the relationship is relatively new, maybe you can get away breaking up over the phone. But come on, if you've been out on more than a handful of dates, isn't that kind of harsh?
4Be honest but sensitive. No one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding him/her attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.
5Keep your emotions in check. Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate.
6Don't react. Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, or cry. But it doesn't mean you should react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the upper hand by being the dumper. Let the dumpee behave ridiculously if they choose to. And if their tantrum escalates, get the heck out of there! Don't wait around for the aftermath!
How to know that your in love
Knowing when your are in love isn't as easy as Hollywood makes appear on the big screen. It's more than a physical rush from a heated embrace.
Instructions
Step 1
In the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 says that "Love is patient, kind, isn't rude or jealous, it keeps no record of wrongs, it protects, it trusts, it always hopes and perseveres. Love never fails. It is undying and self-sacrificing."
Step 2
In today's modern world, it seems that the qualities mentioned in Corinthians are lost. Love like this is what most people search for their whole lives. Most settle for the "feeling of love" that is gotten from physical pleasure, great conversations and the fun gotten from dating someone they like. They find simple comfort from that and think it is life-lasting.
Step 3
When you are truly in love with someone, you know it. You feel as if that person completes you and feel empty without that person. You would do anything for that person, even give your life for them. You want to make them happy, not in a way that is co-dependant, but because that person's happiness makes you happy.
Step 4
True love can come at first sight. That glance that pentrates through you to your soul and connects you to that person. A gaze that whenever you are near this person you feel as if you are the only two people in the room.
Step 5
True love is when you are together and you don't know where you begin and the person you are with ends. It is not a dependancy on another to survive. It is feeling complete or whole with that person. Think of it as building from one another, and what one lacks the other has.
Step 6
True love is a lifelong friendship, and companionship from your soul mate. It is a connection that cannot be broken. It is a willingness to forgive and forget and to accept without change. Love wants you to encourage each other and to share dreams, to cry with each other and be scared together. It's a willingness to go through life's painful chaos on a daily basis. It's the calmness you get from your loved one's smile and it's being there through it all, even when you don't feel like it, you dig in and work through it. You fight for what you love. It is the greatest sacrifice that brings the sweetest joy, and that can be the most painful, lifelong experience you may ever have.
Instructions
Step 1
In the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 says that "Love is patient, kind, isn't rude or jealous, it keeps no record of wrongs, it protects, it trusts, it always hopes and perseveres. Love never fails. It is undying and self-sacrificing."
Step 2
In today's modern world, it seems that the qualities mentioned in Corinthians are lost. Love like this is what most people search for their whole lives. Most settle for the "feeling of love" that is gotten from physical pleasure, great conversations and the fun gotten from dating someone they like. They find simple comfort from that and think it is life-lasting.
Step 3
When you are truly in love with someone, you know it. You feel as if that person completes you and feel empty without that person. You would do anything for that person, even give your life for them. You want to make them happy, not in a way that is co-dependant, but because that person's happiness makes you happy.
Step 4
True love can come at first sight. That glance that pentrates through you to your soul and connects you to that person. A gaze that whenever you are near this person you feel as if you are the only two people in the room.
Step 5
True love is when you are together and you don't know where you begin and the person you are with ends. It is not a dependancy on another to survive. It is feeling complete or whole with that person. Think of it as building from one another, and what one lacks the other has.
Step 6
True love is a lifelong friendship, and companionship from your soul mate. It is a connection that cannot be broken. It is a willingness to forgive and forget and to accept without change. Love wants you to encourage each other and to share dreams, to cry with each other and be scared together. It's a willingness to go through life's painful chaos on a daily basis. It's the calmness you get from your loved one's smile and it's being there through it all, even when you don't feel like it, you dig in and work through it. You fight for what you love. It is the greatest sacrifice that brings the sweetest joy, and that can be the most painful, lifelong experience you may ever have.
How to attract a gal..
When it comes to dating and women, many men will find themselves confused. You may feel as though you should be able to attract a girlfriend easily, but for some reason, it's just not happening for YOU. If you were taught to be the kind of guy that instantly tries to be everything to a woman, then your odds of being able to attract a girlfriend are not all that good. At least, not the kind of girlfriend that you REALLY want.
Why is this and what can YOU do differently?
Most men play the role that they believe works to attract a woman. They've seen it in movies and they've been told it works, and it doesn't. What is that role? The guy that becomes a girl's best friend right away. Well, not really a best friend, but more of a doormat than anything else. See, this does nothing at all to trigger a woman's attraction. A woman is not attracted to a man because he's the kind of pushover that will do whatever she wants and says.
Women want a man that is fun to be with, challenges them, and makes them FEEL excitement.
Unless you are looking for a woman that is in settle down mode right away, you have to become this kind of guy that can excite her and fill her with passion and emotion. Most men fail to do this. Instead, they try and play it on the safe side. And the safe side does not lead to her sleeping at your side in YOUR bed.
You have to approach a woman and make HER feel something for YOU.
If you fail to do this, if you fail to create real and intense attraction with a woman, then the odds are not good that she will fall for YOU.
Why is this and what can YOU do differently?
Most men play the role that they believe works to attract a woman. They've seen it in movies and they've been told it works, and it doesn't. What is that role? The guy that becomes a girl's best friend right away. Well, not really a best friend, but more of a doormat than anything else. See, this does nothing at all to trigger a woman's attraction. A woman is not attracted to a man because he's the kind of pushover that will do whatever she wants and says.
Women want a man that is fun to be with, challenges them, and makes them FEEL excitement.
Unless you are looking for a woman that is in settle down mode right away, you have to become this kind of guy that can excite her and fill her with passion and emotion. Most men fail to do this. Instead, they try and play it on the safe side. And the safe side does not lead to her sleeping at your side in YOUR bed.
You have to approach a woman and make HER feel something for YOU.
If you fail to do this, if you fail to create real and intense attraction with a woman, then the odds are not good that she will fall for YOU.
How to attract a guy
Being a single gal isn't always the easiest. More than likely you're looking for a way that you can attract a guy but you don't want to appear too desperate about it all. Unfortunately there are many beautiful women out there that are trying to attract a real hottie and they are having absolutely no luck. In order to successfully attract a guy, there are some important tips to use for the best success. The following are some simple steps to follow if you want to know how to attract a guy.
Instructions
Step 1Keep your attitude positive. If you want to know how to attract a guy, attitude is very important. Guys don't like negative women - they like positive and upbeat women. Men are attracted to women that make them feel great. If you are putting out a negative aura, you'll drive the men away. Act positive, feel positive, and talk in a positive manner. Never complain about your problems when you meet a guy. When you appear positive, happy, and fun, you'll start attracting the guys like a real "guy magnet."
Step 2
Be a flirt. Yep, go ahead and flirt. Guys love it. Don't expect to attract a guy if you aren't willing to flirt. While you shouldn't go overboard, flirting is an invitation. Try giving a sexy smile, lay your hand on his arm when you are speaking to him. Look up at him from under your eyelashes. All these subtle methods of flirting work wonderfully for attracting a guy.
Step 3
Ensure you look amazing. If you look grungy or frumpy, you're not going to attract a guy. Of course you don't have to run out and break the bank buying new clothes, but you do need to look great. Choose clothing that plays up your feminine and sexy side. Instead of pants, go with a feminine skirt and play up your curves. Don't overdo it and end up looking like a call girl, but you should use what you have. Look amazing and flaunt those curves and you'll have no problem attracting a guy.
Step 4
Enjoy yourself. When you're out there meeting new guys, have a wonderful time. Really enjoy yourself. Some women go out looking and look like they are having a horrid time, driving the men away. A woman that is having an enjoyable time is attractive to the guys. Smile, laugh, and enjoy yourself and you'll be able to attract a guy with no problem at all.
Step 5
Engage in some eye contact. When you want to know how to attract a guy, eye contact is one of the most important steps. If you're interested in a guy, give him a look. Don't stare at him like you're a stalker, but make some eye contact and then look away. He'll soon be at your side.
Step 6
Never act desperate! Act desperate and you'll never attract a guy. Guys aren't interested in women who are desperate. Show a bit of desperation and you'll drive all the guys away. Show that you are happy with yourself and your life. Avoid that desperation and you'll have a better chance of attracting a hot guy.
Instructions
Step 1Keep your attitude positive. If you want to know how to attract a guy, attitude is very important. Guys don't like negative women - they like positive and upbeat women. Men are attracted to women that make them feel great. If you are putting out a negative aura, you'll drive the men away. Act positive, feel positive, and talk in a positive manner. Never complain about your problems when you meet a guy. When you appear positive, happy, and fun, you'll start attracting the guys like a real "guy magnet."
Step 2
Be a flirt. Yep, go ahead and flirt. Guys love it. Don't expect to attract a guy if you aren't willing to flirt. While you shouldn't go overboard, flirting is an invitation. Try giving a sexy smile, lay your hand on his arm when you are speaking to him. Look up at him from under your eyelashes. All these subtle methods of flirting work wonderfully for attracting a guy.
Step 3
Ensure you look amazing. If you look grungy or frumpy, you're not going to attract a guy. Of course you don't have to run out and break the bank buying new clothes, but you do need to look great. Choose clothing that plays up your feminine and sexy side. Instead of pants, go with a feminine skirt and play up your curves. Don't overdo it and end up looking like a call girl, but you should use what you have. Look amazing and flaunt those curves and you'll have no problem attracting a guy.
Step 4
Enjoy yourself. When you're out there meeting new guys, have a wonderful time. Really enjoy yourself. Some women go out looking and look like they are having a horrid time, driving the men away. A woman that is having an enjoyable time is attractive to the guys. Smile, laugh, and enjoy yourself and you'll be able to attract a guy with no problem at all.
Step 5
Engage in some eye contact. When you want to know how to attract a guy, eye contact is one of the most important steps. If you're interested in a guy, give him a look. Don't stare at him like you're a stalker, but make some eye contact and then look away. He'll soon be at your side.
Step 6
Never act desperate! Act desperate and you'll never attract a guy. Guys aren't interested in women who are desperate. Show a bit of desperation and you'll drive all the guys away. Show that you are happy with yourself and your life. Avoid that desperation and you'll have a better chance of attracting a hot guy.
How to say sorry
Sometimes one of the most challenging things to say or give is an apology.Many times we just don't have the right words or just don't know how to say sorry.Maybe this is just me,but I hate having to admit that I was in the wrong.Sometimes I think it would be so much easier if we didn't have to apologize.What happened to "Forgive and Forget?" Although I know I have issues,because when somebody wrongs me or hurts my feelings,I automatically expect an apology of some sort.However small you think the mistake may be could have devastating effects on your relationships if sorry is not in your vocabulary.Go ahead,say you are sorry.Apologize! If you don't,theres a chance they won't forgive you.Don't let your pride get in the way of your friendship! Here are some ideas and tips to make this process easy,maybe even fun!Show that special person that you do care!
How to hug your girlfriend?
Many men in relationships feel that their other half rarely makes romantic gestures. This can be very detrimental to their self esteem and happiness in the relationship. However, the problem has a very simple solution which can be mastered by anyone.
Steps
1Show her affection, when walking in the mall, hold her hand, or hold her hand in the movies. When you greet her, give her a kiss, show her you care about her. Snuggle next to her on the couch, with your arm around her, and your fingers in her hair. When you give affection, you will get it. Bend down and give her a soft kiss, and she will return it.
2Be lovable. Make her want to be around you. Have a good sense of humor, and do not complain to her about things that bother you. Discuss things that you both have in common. Become lovers, and show her you care!
3Wear a pleasant scent cologne or after-shave, so she will enjoy having your cheeks next to each other. Many women find certain scents to be annoying, so check and see if she likes it first. Practice good hygiene; this includes washing your clothes, brushing your teeth, flossing and the use of mouthwash [no one wants to share a stink mouth]. When you wear a scent, be sure it's not too much; women hate it when guys feel the need to wear a lot of cologne.
4In order to receive affection, you must give it as well. Do not wait for her to do it first or it becomes a game. If you are not comfortable with each other, don't laugh at things, or don't enjoy walking hand in hand, then you will never get affection from her because she just will not care about you.
5Compliment her when she does something nice. Do not just be false in your words. Be honest and she will enjoy you more. Do not prepare a script of how to have her show you affection. Do not plan it. It is a normal act, that is displayed when one truly cares for the other. Just be yourself, be fun to be with, enjoy her company and show it in little ways.
6Bring her something special when you go to meet her. It doesn't have to be anything big, it could be a candy bar, or a funny card. It's a nice gesture to show that you are interested in her, and want to please her.
7Make her feel as if she is the only girl on earth that means something to you. This will make her have a sense of comfort.
Steps
1Show her affection, when walking in the mall, hold her hand, or hold her hand in the movies. When you greet her, give her a kiss, show her you care about her. Snuggle next to her on the couch, with your arm around her, and your fingers in her hair. When you give affection, you will get it. Bend down and give her a soft kiss, and she will return it.
2Be lovable. Make her want to be around you. Have a good sense of humor, and do not complain to her about things that bother you. Discuss things that you both have in common. Become lovers, and show her you care!
3Wear a pleasant scent cologne or after-shave, so she will enjoy having your cheeks next to each other. Many women find certain scents to be annoying, so check and see if she likes it first. Practice good hygiene; this includes washing your clothes, brushing your teeth, flossing and the use of mouthwash [no one wants to share a stink mouth]. When you wear a scent, be sure it's not too much; women hate it when guys feel the need to wear a lot of cologne.
4In order to receive affection, you must give it as well. Do not wait for her to do it first or it becomes a game. If you are not comfortable with each other, don't laugh at things, or don't enjoy walking hand in hand, then you will never get affection from her because she just will not care about you.
5Compliment her when she does something nice. Do not just be false in your words. Be honest and she will enjoy you more. Do not prepare a script of how to have her show you affection. Do not plan it. It is a normal act, that is displayed when one truly cares for the other. Just be yourself, be fun to be with, enjoy her company and show it in little ways.
6Bring her something special when you go to meet her. It doesn't have to be anything big, it could be a candy bar, or a funny card. It's a nice gesture to show that you are interested in her, and want to please her.
7Make her feel as if she is the only girl on earth that means something to you. This will make her have a sense of comfort.
How to hug a guy
Is that guy your best friend? Your boyfriend? Your crush? Did he just ask you for a hug? How can you hug him without giving him the wrong idea? Do you want to give him the wrong idea? Keep all these things in mind when hugging your guy.
Step 1
What do you want to achieve by hugging this guy? Do you like him and want him to like you back? Or is he just a friend that you'd like to keep as a friend? Determine this for yourself before you hug any guy.
Step 2
If the guy in qustion is a crush or a boyfriend, then its okay to press up against him a little. However, if he is your crush, you must be brief or he will think that you are a litle to close for comfort...
Step 3
Wrap your arms around your love interest, either around his waist or his neck. Most girls prefer the neck for crushes because either they are shorter than he is or because the waist is personal space. If he is your boyfriend/husband/fiancee, then that is perfectly okay.
Step 4
Brush his neck or chest with your fingers when you withdraw, that is, if HE asked YOU for the hug. If you have no significant reason to believe that he may like you, you may want to leave this part out. Again, you don't want to seem like the girl who hangs on every guy she sees.
Step 5
IF the guy is just your friend, especially a close friend, you need to be a little more careful with body language because you may want him to stay as JUST a friend. No pressing of the torso, no looking into the eyes, and especially no glances at the lips or you may make him think you want him to kiss you.
Step 6
When hugging a guy friend, one arm should be around his neck, the other around his ribcage. Keep your bodies a few inches apart and look to the side or over his shoulder. Avoid eye contact while you are locked together. Smile either throughout the hug or only at the end.
Step 1
What do you want to achieve by hugging this guy? Do you like him and want him to like you back? Or is he just a friend that you'd like to keep as a friend? Determine this for yourself before you hug any guy.
Step 2
If the guy in qustion is a crush or a boyfriend, then its okay to press up against him a little. However, if he is your crush, you must be brief or he will think that you are a litle to close for comfort...
Step 3
Wrap your arms around your love interest, either around his waist or his neck. Most girls prefer the neck for crushes because either they are shorter than he is or because the waist is personal space. If he is your boyfriend/husband/fiancee, then that is perfectly okay.
Step 4
Brush his neck or chest with your fingers when you withdraw, that is, if HE asked YOU for the hug. If you have no significant reason to believe that he may like you, you may want to leave this part out. Again, you don't want to seem like the girl who hangs on every guy she sees.
Step 5
IF the guy is just your friend, especially a close friend, you need to be a little more careful with body language because you may want him to stay as JUST a friend. No pressing of the torso, no looking into the eyes, and especially no glances at the lips or you may make him think you want him to kiss you.
Step 6
When hugging a guy friend, one arm should be around his neck, the other around his ribcage. Keep your bodies a few inches apart and look to the side or over his shoulder. Avoid eye contact while you are locked together. Smile either throughout the hug or only at the end.
The 1st kiss...
The First Kiss
A first kiss is always special, and usually scary. However, with the right strategy, your first kiss can be worthwhile and fulfilling. You'll want to make your strategy as simple and clear-cut as the educational programs of investools. The biggest thing that you can do to blow a first kiss is to try to kiss them too soon! This might be scary to hear because you'll ask yourself, "What if it's still too soon?" all the time. But you want to make sure that you're not trying to kiss them before you've even held hands or known each other for a while. You don't want to kiss them too soon for two reasons:
You don't want them to think you're more interested in kissing than you are interested in them.
You don't want them to think you like them a ton more than they like you, or they'll get scared
If they reciprocate your other physical guestures, such as holding hands, putting your arm around them, etc., then you can kiss them. However, don't kiss them immediately after you hold hands the first time! Do those other things for a few days to let the tension build until they are dying for you to kiss them!
The second biggest way you can blow a first kiss is to wait forever and miss too many opportunities. While it's good to let them wonder when you're going to do it (you want them to know you have confidence and are in control of yourself and the situation), if you wait for weeks and weeks and pass up too many opportunities, they're just going to move on.
Another thing: don't talk about it before you do it! Nothing ruins romance more than talking it to death before it happens! Let the attraction build, be calm and confident, and just kiss them when the moment presents itself. You don't have to put on a big production or arrange some fancy or romantic date or event in order to kiss them. Kiss them for the first time when you are by yourselves--spontaneously!
One more thing! Don't buy their affection! Don't think that you can take a girl out to dinner and she owes you a kiss. Girls see through that and it doesn't work! Girls, don't think you can get a guy to kiss you or be interested in you by buying them things or bringing them cookies. It's not like that!
A first kiss is always special, and usually scary. However, with the right strategy, your first kiss can be worthwhile and fulfilling. You'll want to make your strategy as simple and clear-cut as the educational programs of investools. The biggest thing that you can do to blow a first kiss is to try to kiss them too soon! This might be scary to hear because you'll ask yourself, "What if it's still too soon?" all the time. But you want to make sure that you're not trying to kiss them before you've even held hands or known each other for a while. You don't want to kiss them too soon for two reasons:
You don't want them to think you're more interested in kissing than you are interested in them.
You don't want them to think you like them a ton more than they like you, or they'll get scared
If they reciprocate your other physical guestures, such as holding hands, putting your arm around them, etc., then you can kiss them. However, don't kiss them immediately after you hold hands the first time! Do those other things for a few days to let the tension build until they are dying for you to kiss them!
The second biggest way you can blow a first kiss is to wait forever and miss too many opportunities. While it's good to let them wonder when you're going to do it (you want them to know you have confidence and are in control of yourself and the situation), if you wait for weeks and weeks and pass up too many opportunities, they're just going to move on.
Another thing: don't talk about it before you do it! Nothing ruins romance more than talking it to death before it happens! Let the attraction build, be calm and confident, and just kiss them when the moment presents itself. You don't have to put on a big production or arrange some fancy or romantic date or event in order to kiss them. Kiss them for the first time when you are by yourselves--spontaneously!
One more thing! Don't buy their affection! Don't think that you can take a girl out to dinner and she owes you a kiss. Girls see through that and it doesn't work! Girls, don't think you can get a guy to kiss you or be interested in you by buying them things or bringing them cookies. It's not like that!
Kissing do's and dont's
Kissing Do's and Don'ts
Do's:
Breathe! Breathe through your nose or don't be afraid to pull back slightly to take a breath, but no one likes it when their partner violently gasps because they've been holding their breath!
Have fresh breath!
Reciprocate their kissing and be active. You don't want to be a kissing post, you want to be a kisser!
Be gentle, not violent!
Use your hands.
Pay attention to your partner. Kissing is not all about you--it's about making them feel good too!
Don'ts:
Use too much tongue or a really stiff tongue. This can be a turn off. Try to be subtle and gentle. The slower the hotter!
Lick their teeth. Yuck.
Kiss with your eyes open. It's ok to peek once in a while, but keep em closed or you'll come off as creepy!
Salivate everywhere. Slobbery kissing is not cool. Just be conscious of it, and you'll do fine.
Move too fast. Stay in control of yourself and don't freak them out by getting too frisky!
Do's:
Breathe! Breathe through your nose or don't be afraid to pull back slightly to take a breath, but no one likes it when their partner violently gasps because they've been holding their breath!
Have fresh breath!
Reciprocate their kissing and be active. You don't want to be a kissing post, you want to be a kisser!
Be gentle, not violent!
Use your hands.
Pay attention to your partner. Kissing is not all about you--it's about making them feel good too!
Don'ts:
Use too much tongue or a really stiff tongue. This can be a turn off. Try to be subtle and gentle. The slower the hotter!
Lick their teeth. Yuck.
Kiss with your eyes open. It's ok to peek once in a while, but keep em closed or you'll come off as creepy!
Salivate everywhere. Slobbery kissing is not cool. Just be conscious of it, and you'll do fine.
Move too fast. Stay in control of yourself and don't freak them out by getting too frisky!
what is kiss?
Kiss is the touching of one's lips to another person or object, to express love, passion, affection, respect, greeting, and good luck.[1] From the kiss of respect to platonic kiss to a passionate kiss like you see in the movies, bringing your lips in contact with someone else's is a sign of affection that most people enjoy. But since there are many kinds of kisses to reflect the many levels of affection you can have for someone, it can be nerve-wracking! Don't worry, though--this article will go over several kinds of kisses, as well as when, and how, to give them.
What is love?
What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said �Love all�
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But �love� is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.
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Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. William Shakespeare.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said �Love all�
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But �love� is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.
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Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. William Shakespeare.
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